How To Make Decisions You Won’t Regret

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Oh my god, you think, your stomach turning. Why in the world did I do that? We’ve all made a bad decision before. You know the feeling—in the moment, it seems like you made the right call. But afterward, the impact of your decision sets in, and you realize your judgment was cloudy.

Well, a lot of people worry about their decision-making abilities, and if I were to ask you your routine for doing it, you’d probably tell me you don’t have one.

But you’re wrong, because you do—everybody has decision-making habits. You just might not recognize them, or maybe you don’t like the way you go about the process. Everyone’s decisions are based on something, though, so if you just stop to think about it, you’ll discover what that something is and be able to fine-tune your routine for a more confident approach, with fewer regrets.

1. Be aware that you have a choice.

If you feel helpless or victimized, you may not realize that you’re making an unconscious choice. The first step is to make the unconscious choice conscious. For example, if you’re unhappy at your job, you may be choosing security over happiness. Recognize that as a choice and remember that you can always change your choice.

2. Take time.

If someone is pressing me to decide something right now, unless an immediate decision is critical, I say, “If I have to choose now, the answer is no. After I’ve had a chance to catch my breath and review the facts, there’s the possibility it could be yes.” Then I put the ball back in their court and ask, “Do you want my decision now, or should we wait?”

3. Weigh the pros and cons.

I like to determine the maximum benefit of a decision, assuming that everything goes my way. Then I ask myself, Suppose nothing goes my way? Suppose this doesn’t develop and materialize as I expect it to? What is my maximum exposure? What would I lose?

4. Surrender your decision.

When you decide to let your soul make your decisions, you’ll likely have to drag your Small Self with you, kicking and screaming. It does not trust that we live in a universe where the soul can make its own heart-felt choices.

It can help to practice the art of spiritual surrender. Surrender your decision to the divine. Ask your soul to help you make your decision. Then, be on the lookout for inner and outer guidance.

5. Seek advice.

Once you’ve surrendered your decision to something larger than your Small Self, ask for help—be it from the spirit realm or from a trusted therapist or friend. This guide can hold up the mirror for you and skillfully nudge you towards the decision that already lies within you.

For significant business-related decisions, run them past advisors. These people are successful in their businesses and professions and have a considerable amount of knowledge, experience and wisdom, all of which are musts in the decision-making process.

6. Trust your intuition

Intuition hits us in a few different ways. Some people just know (claircognizance). Some people get visions (clairvoyance). Some people hear a little voice in their ear (clairaudience). Once you learn how intuition shows up for you, and once you’ve started collecting evidence that things go well when you follow your intuition, you’ll recognize it more easily and trust it more.


Decisions are not always the result of thoughtful contemplation. In fact, some of them are made on impulse alone. Regardless of the decision, at the time you made it, it was something you wanted or you would not have done it (unless someone was pointing a gun at your head).

Be willing to own the decisions you make. Be accountable for them. Take responsibility and accept them.

One response to “How To Make Decisions You Won’t Regret”

  1. […] we do so many things we don’t give ourselves time to think strategically. We may be working hard, but we are not working smarter. Being busy and being productive can often […]

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